Until recently, sex was seen as a taboo topic and conversations about sex care like tampons and lubricants, were reserved for secretive google searches and the occasional embarrasing exchange with a friend. But, why? Why should the part of our bodies that brings us pleasure be the cause of our greatest discomfort? It’s time to toss away the shame and carry your hygiene products down the hallway with pride, recommend your favourite lube to a friend, and keep your head held high in the contraceptive aisle. We want to remind you, or perhaps tell you for the first time (welcome to the self love club!), giving your lady parts compassion can give you confidence. It’s like that feeling you get when your bra matches your underwear. Yes, you are a badass, and yes, you deserve to be healthy, clean, and satisfied.
If you’re on board, but not sure where to start, we have some suggestions of key sex care items to get you started. And remember, your sexual journey is just that, your sexual journey. So don’t let anyone else tell you what you should or should not be doing – us included. If something doesn’t feel right for you, that’s okay. We’re just here to offer some of our personal favourites from the growing sex care industry. Enjoy!
You don’t have to feel ashamed for using lubricants, and you certainly shouldn’t just pick the first one you see on the shelf in order to make what you feel is an “awkward” purchase as brief as possible. The key is to pick what is best for you and your body. Brands like Smile Makers, a sex positive company that make all things sex care and female pleasure, offer quizzes and advice that help you find the perfect lube for your body and needs. Depending on your own chemistry you may need something more water-based, a gel, etcetera. It’s about finding what works for you, not what others claim feels best. Embrace the process, and enjoy the results!
Don’t just leave safety to your partner, and forget those last minute drug store runs. When it comes to condoms, look for brands that offer products free of dyes, fragrances, irritating chemicals, and nitrosamines, many of which are carcinogenic. And of course, go for comfort and ease like Lovability Inc.’s condoms which offer organic, ultra-thin, flexible, vegan latex and come in a cute, easy-open, no tear package. Take your sexual health into your own hands, and always be safe. It’s more empowering than you realize.
Oils aren’t just for your arms, legs, and face. All skin can benefit from a little bit of moisturizing TLC. There are some great products that don’t just keep your sensitive skin silky smooth, but can also help with ingrown hairs, inflammation, redness, and more. Sometimes we get in our heads about the appearance of our private parts when just a simple splash of care can give us the confidence we’ve been craving. Look for oils that include tea tree, jojoba, coconut, clary sage, grape seed, and witch hazel. These ingredients not only smell great, but they also include antibacterial and antimicrobial properties, as well as vitamins E, D, and C. Fur and Lady Suite are two awesome brands that offer just that. The change you’re going to see will be both inside and out!
This header might have you saying, “duh,” but you’d be surprised by the mistreatment so many of us give our lady parts just by using the wrong bar of soap. There is a right way to stay clean, and it’s more scientific than you might think! Our bodies have natural pH levels that can be thrown totally out of whack by harsh chemicals, scents, and sugars, many of which like to make an appearance in our daily shower routine. So say goodbye to the bar of soap that you thought could be a friend to your legs and your lady zone, and hello to specific products for pubic area. SweetSpot Labs and Queen V have wipes, soaps, sprays and more, all pH balanced, and smelling sweet of cleanliness and confidence.
Of course, it wouldn’t be a sex care article without a section on vibrators. But, I’ll keep this short and sweet. You deserve to feel pleasure, and sometimes that means solo, or with a partner and some extra assistance. Either way, feel no shame! Sex shouldn’t make you anxious or scared, it should relax you, entertain you – whatever you want it to do, really. So consider adding a vibrator to your routine, or if you already have one, perhaps consider an upgrade if you don’t feel fully satisfied. There are so many options on the market for whatever your kink may be. Most importantly, do what makes you feel good.